6 Perfect quotes on perfection

Perfection. It’s been somewhat of my theme for the year. This ideal of perfection, holds us back in our creative endeavours, our relationships, our goals, and our self-compassion. Perfection, very often is a shackle of fear. So as I look over my blog and social media for the year, here are some quotes I came across.

“It all does not need to be perfect.”

From the my post titled, to the blog posts I did not write. It’s this little poem which prompted me to look at my creative outlet a little less critical.

Eventually, I realized that the criticism in my internal chatter is not just limited to this blog. Neither is that of many other people.

“You are perfect to me”

Pink from the song Perfect, which I featured on my post 15 Motivational Songs to kick A**

“Underneath our perfect is where the true connection lie”

From my post, in the age of Social Media is the fear of rejection keeping us from genuine friendships?

“Life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful”

This little snippet of wisdom was smiling at me as I was walking past a coffee shop. I snapped the picture and posted it on Instagram.

#inspiration #motivation is everywhere. Took this pic while out shopping.

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In the post titled, how to overcome relationship disaster taught to us by bedtime stories, I explored this concept of expectation of perfection we have in our partners.

“Mister wrong, is not necessarily wrong because he is not perfect. He may be wrong because you have an unrealistic expectation”

I love this Jeffrey Allen quote on the matter:

“It’s so wonderful that people don’t have to be perfect to be perfect for each other”

“Sometimes it’s the flaws in life, which make life interesting.”

Admittedly, while the above quote does not actually have the word “perfect” in it you get the general idea that flaws are there when something is not perfect. This is the closing line on the post titled, sometimes flaws are beautiful, a look at the 2017 NaNo Poblano badge.

Often perfection is an unrealistic ideal, an expectation too heavy to carry. Sometimes it’s boring and dull. And sometimes, it is our own imperfect perception which is in error. Some things are perfect, just as they are – but we think they are not.

And sometimes a situation, person, thing, whatever may just be perfect for you – but not perfect for someone else. We are all unique beings. Why are we always looking for a uniform ideal?

This has been the 12th and last post for the 12 days of it does not need to be perfect, suitably ended with a post on perfection.

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5 Seconds before the finish line

There it is. The finish line. The bright yellow ribbon glitters in the sunlight as we speed towards it. If you have ever run any type of race whether that be a 100m sprint or a marathon, at this point you are exhausted. You know you are only one or two steps away from making it, finishing. But what if the stands are empty? There’s no one racing with you? No referee to take your time? No one to see how your feet burn on the rubber of the racetrack? There’s no one to cheer you on? No trophy to contend for?

This is what a blog challenge like the one I’ve been writing this month feels like. Or attempting to draft a fifty thousand word novel, in one month. Many things in life feel like that. 5 Seconds before the finishing line you look in front of you and wonder. What am I doing this for? Who would notice if I simply sat down and gave up? Why am I beating myself up? Is this really worth losing sleep over?

Blog or writing challenges may not seem like such a big deal. After all, many bloggers write posts every day as a matter of habit. But, many of those bloggers earn some kind of benefit from their blogs. They have monetized them. Or they sell something which they can advertise on their blogs. But what about us? What about the ones who have a free wordpress.com blog or the Google version blogspot.com?

It’s the final countdown, but we’re not heading for Venus quite yet.

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It doesn’t really matter the scenario. Sometimes we embark on some kind of project and then end up wondering, “what am I getting out of this?” It does not need to be a project. It could be a life choice, a job, a diet, a simple quest to smile at strangers.

What am I getting out of this? How will this benefit me? What’s in it for me?

Here’s the thing, even if your answers are any of the following:

  • I now have bragging rights.
  • I have proven to myself I can do it.
  • I got a couple of likes on my Social Media.
  • I have something to talk about.
  • I have become a better version of myself

Or even if your answer is something as self-less as:

  • I made someone smile
  • I fed 50 hungry children and can now sleep better at night

If you are asking, “what do I get out of this”, your formula is flawed. You are asking the wrong question.

#MayItBeOfBenifit

This is my final post for the blogging challenge I embarked upon at the start of the month. I could have reviewed my posts for the second half of the month. But instead, I leave you with this open-ended post. What do you think is the right question?

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Do more of what makes you happy! 

Seriously this! (The quote reads the same as the title.)

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App #review – #Gratitude Garden

These day’s we have Apps for everything. We have Apps to help our babies sleep, there are Apps to read our news on, Apps for our fitness and Apps and Apps. What about an App to make you happy?
Happiness, it’s a bit vague. It’s subjective. It’s elusive and you’d say there is no App for that.

Well actually, and I’ll quote this straight from the App I’m writing this review on:

“One of the most effective ways that people can make themselves happier is to note down each day three good things that happened to them. Most people spend more time worrying about problems in their lives, rather than about thinking what has made them happy. Research indicates that the act of recalling and writing down what has gone well each day helps give people a positive outlook and greater self-esteem.”

This act of writing down three good things is generally referred to as a gratitude journal. Now for anyone who has been following my blog for a while, will know that I believe in the power of gratitude. In today’s society there’s way too much attention on everything else, but the simple act of being thankful. This small seeming thing can shift your entire perspective and can help you on the road to happiness. Note, I say help you on the road. It’s not the only thing. Perhaps like I recently read it could be one of many things, one 5% contribution towards beating depression & melancholy. Er, maybe this one gets 10%.

Here’s where an App can come in handy. You could certainly jot down three good things in a plain paper journal but an App on your phone has definite benefits. Not only can you jot down three things any time without having to take your paper journal with you, but there are some things an App can do that a paper journal can’t. The App I enjoy in this regard is called Gratitude Garden. It is available both on the Google Play store for Android and on iTunes for Apple devices.

It’s quite easy to use. You simply hit the Start button and jot down three things for which you are grateful, good things that happen.

Reading much personal growth, self-help type of things I know that one breaks bad habits by rewarding good ones. It seems to me this App was designed with this in mind.

If the reward of being grateful is not big enough for you, each time you have written down three things you get 50 points. Once you have collected a certain amount of points you can select an animal to put in your Garden. The Garden consists of beautiful artwork. What also set’s this App apart from the rest is the little “select a card” feature which pops up after you have entered your three items. These cards are mindful little reminders of positivity. Honestly, this feature is what I enjoy most about this App.

And like any good gratitude journal app, this one does not neglect to send you little reminders to be grateful. Reminders are in the form of one of your previous good things which you jotted down. Unlike any of the modern App’s – this one does not pester you with Pop-Up adds. It’s absolutely for free (well apart from your data used to download the App) The only way I can see the developer benefiting from the App is in that there are links to her website under the Courses & Coaching tab and information tab. Seriously, that’s not intrusive at all.

It’s a seriously good App to have. So thank you to Izzy McRae for designing it and Neville Sattentau for the beautiful artwork.

P.S.Neither of these people has asked me to review the App. I do so because I feel it could be of benefit to anyone reading this post. Also, this is my way of saying thank you.
Copyright on above screenshots from the App is used per fair use.

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Love the moment, and the energy of the moment will spread beyond all boundaries. – Corita Kent

Energy, it’s been one of the catch words of late. Energy, Energy, Energy. And we are not just talking about electricity. We are not just talking about physical science—although maybe we are.

We are talking about Chi, life force energy. We are talking about the momentum of an idea. We are talking about how everything in life is in constant change, movement—flow. We are talking about how atoms, electrolytes, planet, stars, galaxies are forever in constant movement and the buzz between them. We are talking about the energy of life, the circle of life. We are talking about well-known science and that which remains science fiction. We are talking about energy healing, reiki, seeing auras, astral projection and lucid dreaming. We are talking about the fact that money, is not an object but is an energy. Energy? What is energy? It is infinite, it defies definition – yet it does not.

The thing is, energy is in the here and now. And although we have come into ways to store electricity for future use, the momentum can only be in the now. If you don’t embrace the now energy it will be gone in a moment, replaced by a new now energy.

This post links to a month’s long daily blogging challenge, during November. See who else has signed up to be a Little Pepper HERE. It’s called NANO POBLANO.

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Judgement is an ego thing

“He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” – Jesus

Even if you are not familiar with the bible, you are most likely familiar with that quote from it. Mostly it would be quoted as follows “Let him who is without sin, cast the first stone.”

It’s a quote from John: 8:7

Another verse Romans 2:1 reads:

“you therefore have no excuse, you who pass judgement on another. For on whatever grounds you judge the other, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgement do the same things.”

There are many more verses, and even if you don’t believe in the bible it has many truths you can apply to your life to improve your own wellness.

To be non-judgmental is sometimes not as easy as it seems. It is human to judge people. Even, if you are not aware, you are doing it. You may judge someone on what they eat. You may judge them on how they are clothed. You may judge them on how they speak, how they spell.

To some people it really seems to be an issue of contempt whether pineapple belongs on pizza or not, just as a small example.

People judge other people on their state of mental health and general health. If he hadn’t smoked his whole life. If she would just try. If, if, if. These things tend to be as unhelpful to the person being judged as the person doing he condemning.

Here’s an interesting perspective I found online the other day:

The above embedded quote from Jeffrey Allen reads:

“The difficult thing about JUDGMENT is that we tend to become the things we judge, so we can understand a deeper PERSPECIVE.”

That sheds a whole new light on judging people because they are depressed, negative, unmotivated, are what not for what ever reason – reason we often don’t fully grasp or know about.

Perhaps being right, isn’t right after all. Don’t you think? Being right is about me, myself and I. Even if I’m right about something, perhaps all my rightness will come raining down on me sooner or later.

Just a thought, for this Nano Poblano.

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The Label we forget

“Above all, she is a human being”

Bloggers, we sometimes do a weird thing. We refer to ourselves in the third person. Especially when we are writing an “about the author” section of a post or blog. It’s a style thing.

In that same breath, have you ever checked the bio section in twitter? Any Social Media really. There is this phenomenon. You can even see it in the C. V.’s sent to companies, when people apply for jobs. The entire person get’s condensed into a few words, which we commonly refer to as a label.

Just scroll down, and you will see my own third person account of myself. Check my Twitter bio.

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There’s one label I fell we so often leave out. It’s the label: human being.

I guess it’s a given, an obvious fact. It’s an overlooked fact. However much I may seem as a hero, however much I may seem like a failure I am still a human being.

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This post links to a month’s long daily blogging challenge, during November. See who else has signed up to be a Little Pepper HERE. It’s called NANO POBLANO.

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Rainbows are magical

Rainbows are magical, it’s a cliché if I may.

 promises, wishes I pray.

they’re a portal

To a better world for those of us who are mortal.

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If blue birds fly, why oh why can’t I?

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Rainbow nation.

I had a dream.

Rainbows are magical. So they say.

Unicorns, kittens and the sparkling ray.

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Somewhere over the rainbow, I heard a song

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The dreams that I dare to dream,

ripped

I spy, with my little eye

Why, why you gotta be so mean?

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Once in a lullaby, I heard that Rainbow’s are magical.

So she sings. He grows wings.

Magical, Magical, Magical things.

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NanoPoblano 2017

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#Haiku prompt challenge: Broken & Over 

Greater forces broke

That which provided shelter

Grows over again.

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Thanks for Haiku prompt words Broken & Over. Traditionally Haiku poetry is written about an observation in Nature. This one about a tree which has been struck by lightning.  Often you will find a new tree growing at the site. But the poem could be an observation on something completely different.  This is why I enjoy Haiku.

This post links to a month’s long daily blogging challenge, during November. See who else has signed up to be a Little Pepper HERE. It’s called NANO POBLANO/ NaBloPoMo.

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3 easy wellness techniques you can use every day

I’m always looking for easy things to incorporate into my life to improve my own wellness. A health care practitioner gave me a tip about drinking warn water. This video has that tip, explains why it works and two more things. Enjoy:

This post links to a month’s long daily blogging challenge, during November. See who else has signed up to be a Little Pepper HERE. It’s called NANO POBLANO/ NaBloPoMo.

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